So, take some time, settle down, and work through these questions with your partner. If you never ask, you may never know…
In a fire, what five items would you save?
In what ways do you need me to support you with your career?
How are our approaches to finances different, and how are they similar?
What does trust mean to you?
What’s the best thing about us as a couple?
What’s a guaranteed way to make me laugh?
How do you feel about the division of chores at home?
How often do you think about the future?
Do you prefer to plan things, or be spontaneous?
What’s the best thing you can do when I’m feeling down?
What does the best version of yourself look like?
What item of clothing do you feel your best in?
Do you prefer to give or receive?
What is your favourite way to relax together?
Do you feel comfortable raising issues in our relationship?
Do you think we have a similar sense of style?
What does your ideal day look like?
What’s your relationship with forgiveness?
What small things in life make you happy?
Do you have any self-development goals?
If you’re feeling nervous, how can I support you?
If we were to learn a new skill together, what would it be?
Do you think we’ve changed since the start of our relationship?
How do you like to be flirted with?
What’s your favourite way to treat yourself?
Are you more guided by logic or intuition?
Do you find it easy to admit when you’re wrong?
How would you describe your relationship with technology?
What does good health mean to you?
Do you like being in the spotlight, or prefer the sidelines?
What’s your process for making important decisions?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve been given?
Who do you admire?
Can you tell when I’m feeling down?
What’s your favourite thing about being your current age?
When have you been most proud of me?
In group social situations, do you think we complement each other?
Who was your favourite teacher at school, and why?
How do you deal with making mistakes?
Are you kind to yourself?
How easy is it for someone to change your mind?
How do you feel about your relationships with your family?
Do you feel trusted?
What are the tell-tale signs that you’re in a bad mood?
What’s an activity you’ve always wanted to try?
What’s your favourite way to take care of yourself?
When do you feel most desirable?
What relationships in your life do you admire?
Do you feel your age?
What’s your favourite way that I express my feelings about you?